John starts his law program in two weeks. We have had a great, busy summer. We still have one last trip to go on before our summer of family fun is over. I have loved being together as a family this summer; we have definitely built many, many memories. I am ready for the next chapter to begin, though. We have known that John will be going to law school in August since this past December. In many ways I feel like we have already gone through school and are now ready to move forward. This feeling makes it hard not to jump ahead three years in my mind. As much as I keep telling myself to stay in the moment - to practice all the mindful tactics I educate my clients about - I can't help but tricking myself into thinking about life after law school. I tell myself that it is good to prepare, that we need to be strategic and think ahead. These thoughts are traps and they barrel me forward in time, to a time that I cannot predict, no matter how hard and long I imagine it.
I still go there though.
I am actively running the pros and cons to living in different cities and regions of the country. I know all this thinking is in vain, that in the end we will move wherever we move, and we will adapt to wherever we land.
I still go there though.
My mind is making it's own U.S. News and World Report list of best places to live. Really, USN&WR should contact me for some generalized stats and perceptions. I have been factoring the benefits of living near family, regional perks, cultural hubs, school systems, accessibility to other places, living costs, outdoor activities, community involvement, friendliness, opportunities for kids, proximity of close friends. All these categories lead me down longer, more confusing and theoretical paths. And did I clearly mention that I don't have much factual data that I am working with here? I get nowhere with my thoughts.
I know three years from now things will be clear, and I am almost certain that life and where we end up will be nothing like what I could imagine right now. I know we will land where we need to land, but I cannot stop myself from weighing out ideas. I imagine so many different places having very different influences on our family. I know there is no magical place, and I am not sure John and I are people who will truly ever settle down somewhere for the long haul, so we can have many different experiences living in different places. Now that we have kids, though, it seems a little more critical to find a good spot.
What do you look for when you think about places to live? Where is your ideal place to live?
Though I have lived in the same city for 19 years now, the thing that keeps me here is my community. If you can find a place that you can surround yourself with like minded people who support you and feel like family...that to me is so very important. And especially so when you have children you're raising...I can't imagine if I felt like a "stranger" in this city.
ReplyDeletelove this post! we relate sooo much! constantly searching lists online of best cities--- worst air quality/ schools/ friendly peeps/ family proximity etc--- man its sooo hard to figure out where we want to be, but so far life has just taken us all around and we keep going with the flow. we've enjoyed all the diff experiences as well, the changes, the seasonal differences, the types of people, the varied activities & travel opportunities. but yes, as our kid grows and school comes up soon, we sure are confused and a little more eager to figure out our future--- which really isn't always so up to us or possible =is it? planning is great, but like you say, life just takes you places you never imagined, it's amazing and so exciting- and a little bit nerve-racking at times. :) good luck with the moment mindfulness- i work hard on that one too!
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